Hey, masturbation is a great way to pass the time & to get to know yourself & your body better! Most of us tend to get a bit embarrassed discussing our masturbation habits, it seems as though society as a whole has a negative attitude towards something which the majority of us do on a regular basis. So we thought we’d shed some light on the issue.
10 Positive Reasons To Get Fiddling
- Relieves stress & tension
- Releases endorphins
- Relieves menstrual cramps
- Fights yeast infections by increasing the blood flow into the pelvis
- Exercises & flushes the prostate gland, reducing the risk of prostate infections (men)
- Strengthens pelvic muscles
- Is a good cardiovascular workout & burns up calories
- Improves sexual self-esteem & self-confidence
- Allows you to remain sexually active throughout your entire life
- Allows sexual self-exploration without the worry of STI’s, pregnancy, abuse or harm
…& there's more:
It's healthy and good for you
Physical exercise, deep breaths & a good strong heartbeat combine to keep you in good shape.
It's free
Speaks for itself really! You don’t need any expensive gadgets to experiment, although it can be good fun to add toys & lubes sometimes.
You can do it when the urge takes you
Generally you can satisfy those urges whenever necessary as you haven’t got to wait for your partner. For us women, it’s a lot easier to play secretly in public (if we can’t wait till we get home!) than for you men, but it can be equally exciting! Just be careful!
You don't have to think about anyone else
Sometimes it’s nice to be able to concentrate solely on yourself & to find out about your own body’s capabilities without distraction
(that’s your whole body, not just your genitals!). This in time will enhance any sexual encounters you may have with anyone else as you’ll be able to let them know how to please you, which means you’ll be more satisfied.
It's fun and exciting
Oh yes! Better than rotting in front of the TV or mowing the lawn… Create your own role plays or fantasies with you as the
starring role – it’s amazing how your mind can wander & create new encounters.
It's a great way of relaxing and beating stress
Masturbation helps take your mind off your daily chores/worries/problems as you have to concentrate on what you are doing. Orgasms are amazing ways to relieve tension as the resulting orgasmic ripples help to soothe tired muscles & joints - the sudden release of pressure can be like opening a valve & letting the steam out!
It's a great way to beat insominia
Orgasms are amazing sleep inducers, so try a quickie before bed if you can’t sleep. You’ll find that the effort involved in your fantasies will stop you thinking about sleep, & you’ll drift off in no time - & hey, who cares if you fall asleep in the middle of it, it did the trick didn’t it?
It's totally within your own control and is safe
You aren’t at the mercy of anyone else to provide you with your fun & you aren’t putting yourself in a situation with someone you may not know too well. You cannot get pregnant, you cannot catch any infections & you cannot be subjected to abuse. Oh, & you won’t go blind either!
It's great to get to know your body
How can you know how to get the most out of something if you don’t practice?? You wouldn’t expect to take up a new sport & be an expert straight away would you? And you certainly wouldn’t feel capable of teaching anyone else about that new sport if you weren’t an expert yourself! So get practising & find out things about yourself that you didn’t already know. Try exploring new areas of your whole body that you haven’t touched before, no-one can see you so relax & try something different.
There's no pressure from anyone else to perform
Masturbation is a great way of building up your confidence in your own sexual abilities. It lets you try out things you may not have tried before & also helps you in areas you may have problems in. Sometimes when you’re with someone else the pressure to perform can create problems, so by giving yourself time alone it can greatly reduce the pressure on you & help to improve techniques & subsequent relationships.
Sinsin’s comment…
Hey, can anyone tell us why nobody talks about masturbating? It’s not exactly a dinner party conversation point is it? It’s more like a conversation stopper! It seems that history dictates that we keep this pastime secret & private – which is fine, except that us Brits tend to take things to extremes & not talk about it at all, not even to our children. We believe every parent should be encouraging their teenagers to explore themselves to ensure they are fully aware of what their bodies are capable of.
Put yourself in the shoes of a teenager, then read over the ‘Ten Positive Reasons To Get Fiddling’ again at the top of this page. If, by reading this, a teenager can take more control over his/her body & build up their sexual confidence then isn’t this a positive step? It’s certainly better than any potential negative situation which may occur (through them not reading this) whereby the individual gets him/herself into a tricky sexual situation due to lack of knowledge, lack of confidence & lack of having the courage to do or say what they wish.
To give someone permission to enjoy their own body - by openly discussing all issues - is a powerful gift from a parent to a child, as it’s during childhood & the teenage years that we build up our own self esteem, body image, confidence, self belief & communication skills.
This guide is for general information only. We are not health professionals, but we do care. Always consult a professional!