The trust and intimacy involved in consensual bondage play can really enhance the closeness between two people. It’s a light hearted discovery of your senses and slightly deeper desires. For more information, we stock many books which cover this subject.
What Is Bondage play?
It involves playing with and heightening your partner’s senses. Sexual intercourse is not necessarily a main goal – but stimulation of the erotic senses is an objective. It can be anything from blindfolding, to restraining your partner with the use of proper ties, cuffs or ropes during the game. It’s about playing where one of you is in control and the other is submissive. Remember, follow each others limits and bondage play can be great fun.
How Can I Play?
Use your imagination. Make sure you’re both in the right frame of mind to explore and set your scene well – warmth and ambience are a good start. Making sure you’ll not be disturbed is even better. Start off by incorporating simple elements of bondage play into your love life. Try blindfolding your partner and then touching or stroking them in the least expected places – use a feather or an ice cube (try to avoid going straight for the obvious....pace yourselves and build up to a crescendo of highly charged erotic excitement). Removing someone’s ability to see can often serve to heighten their other senses. A set of cuffs would restrict their movement and add to their feeling of powerlessness. Scarves and ropes are used for bondage play as well as metal and leather cuffs but Velcro cuffs are safer to use being easier, more comfortable and quicker to release in that unexpected moment!
Extra Equipment For Bondage Play
Gags – Just imagine talking dirty to your silent partner or being unable to answer back! Ball gags are the most common type. A gagged person needs constant monitoring in case breathing difficulties occur, always make sure that a person can breath through their nose properly. When a person can’t speak it is best to have a “safe signal” (e.g. clicking their fingers) to indicate the game to end.
Whips – A little pain can be a big turn on e.g. scratching fingernails down someone’s back or spanking. If you fancy exploring some erotic whipping start with something small and quite gentle, don’t jump straight for the bullwhip! Start lightly to be sure of your aim and slowly build up the force until your partner indicates that they can’t take strokes that are any harder. Always be very careful of the parts of the body where veins are close to the skin and of the whip wrapping round the body which can be very painful. Never whip the genitals or face, hands or soles of the feet. And of course be considerate of the marks you are leaving!
Nipple clamps - Nipples are well known erogenous zones and a little bit of pressure on them from a clamp can feel really good. There are varying types that pinch with different amounts of force – some are adjustable. We don’t recommend using clothes pegs because they are too tight for most people, nipples are sensitive! Do not leave clamps on for too long as they restrict blood supply which can cause damage.
Aftercare
Aftercare is what most people do after a steamy session anyway, cuddle up, kiss and enjoy the close feeling sex brings, but this bonding time is especially important after bondage play to reaffirm the trust between you and your partner and discussing any strong emotions, negative or positive that may have come up.
This guide is for general information only. We are not health professionals, but we do care. Always consult a professional!